it's hard to take non-blurry pictures of shiny objects.
the best view to see the setting, or lack thereof.it's a tension setting.
anyway, as one can imagine, the past three weeks have been a whirlwind. tim should have expected it, but the day after he proposed i rescued all of my bridal magazines from the bottom drawer of my nightstand and threw them around the house like confetti. they are still there. along a planning book, and beside my trusty laptop (which is more closely tied to my fingertips than it used to be).
of course, along with the fun stuff surrounding getting married comes the "other stuff." the stuff that nobody (except your best friend) warns you about. like, how EVERYONE (whether you know them or not) will ask you EVERYTHING about it.
what are you colors?
where is the ceremony going to be?
how many bridesmaids are you going to have?
what kind of cake do you want?
when is it?
what kind of flowers are you going to use?
okay, so first, where do some people get off asking you some of these questions. i know that it's usually out of excitement and happiness for me, but seriously...if i only had met somebody a few times, in passing, through a friend, i would NOT go inquiring about their wedding. a simple "congratulations" will do.
second, i have NO FREAKING CLUE yet. sure, i have a location nailed down, but that's about all any "12 months before your wedding to do" list i've seen recommends. get the location, sit back, and take everything else in stride. thanks to some wonderful advice from my matron of honor i have found a fail-safe response to all of these questions: "i'm not there yet." this usually wards random questioners off...at least for a few months, before they start to suspect that i've gotten more details ironed out.
but, don't get me wrong; i love talking about it, and talking to people about it. i just don't like all the questions. i'm in the fun, "let's play with ideas" stage, where ANYTHING is possible. i want to enjoy this phase as long as i can, before i must get bogged down the contracts, and details, and budgets (who am i kidding, i'm already bogged down with the budget thing).
and finally, the one piece of advice that i have heard the most - from married and unmarried friends - is to enjoy the engagement; enjoy spending time with your fiance (that's only a temporary title!); use the time to learn more about each other; and remember to have fun planning the day that begins the rest of your lives together. i couldn't agree more.
of course, along with the fun stuff surrounding getting married comes the "other stuff." the stuff that nobody (except your best friend) warns you about. like, how EVERYONE (whether you know them or not) will ask you EVERYTHING about it.
what are you colors?
where is the ceremony going to be?
how many bridesmaids are you going to have?
what kind of cake do you want?
when is it?
what kind of flowers are you going to use?
okay, so first, where do some people get off asking you some of these questions. i know that it's usually out of excitement and happiness for me, but seriously...if i only had met somebody a few times, in passing, through a friend, i would NOT go inquiring about their wedding. a simple "congratulations" will do.
second, i have NO FREAKING CLUE yet. sure, i have a location nailed down, but that's about all any "12 months before your wedding to do" list i've seen recommends. get the location, sit back, and take everything else in stride. thanks to some wonderful advice from my matron of honor i have found a fail-safe response to all of these questions: "i'm not there yet." this usually wards random questioners off...at least for a few months, before they start to suspect that i've gotten more details ironed out.
but, don't get me wrong; i love talking about it, and talking to people about it. i just don't like all the questions. i'm in the fun, "let's play with ideas" stage, where ANYTHING is possible. i want to enjoy this phase as long as i can, before i must get bogged down the contracts, and details, and budgets (who am i kidding, i'm already bogged down with the budget thing).
and finally, the one piece of advice that i have heard the most - from married and unmarried friends - is to enjoy the engagement; enjoy spending time with your fiance (that's only a temporary title!); use the time to learn more about each other; and remember to have fun planning the day that begins the rest of your lives together. i couldn't agree more.
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I plan on asking you a ton of questions the next time I see you so hopefully you'll have it all planned out by then. Just kidding. Sort of... ;o)
you should get a t-shirt printed with your list of answers on it. only slip some other completely off-topic smartass comment in there, too. like "stop starting at my chest," only less done and more inspired and, you know, good. i would have suggested a tattoo, but i really doubt you'll want to be seeing much of your wedding planning info after the actual wedding.
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